Healthy & unhealthy relationships, whether it be with ourselves, friends, romantic partners, work relationships, family, or parenting, were a mystery that I wanted to unlock and understand. Of course, I was therefore drawn to the Adlerian Perspective when I entered into the world of psychology. This theory looks at the whole of the individual to understand drives, motivations, actions, and reactions in the world. Meaning, that nothing we do exists in singularity by itself. We act and move in the world as a cohesive whole and we are driven by the sum of our experiences and the meaning we have made from them. Every behaviour and action we take can be understood from who we are as a whole and the lens in which we see the world from.

As an Adlerian therapist, we believe that everything we do, say, and think has all been beneficial for us at one point in our lives (even if it does not make sense to the outside world). We developed these coping mechanisms and way of life to adapt and thrive/ survive in our surroundings. These surroundings always involved relationships with others. In our early years these relationships cognitively developed the foundation for how we view love, friendship, safety, our own abilities, emotional connection, gender roles, sexuality, and so much more. We then shape how we see ourselves, and our understanding of others based on our experiences as we continue to move through the world. As our surroundings and relationships change, we sometimes get stuck in these old tracks/ narratives and ways of being, and without noticing it we may create challenges for ourselves in our present day.

Through this lens, I value and understand the uniqueness and internal motivations of each individual & together we uncover this.  What may present as being stuck, challenging, difficult, or an inability to change can all be understood and worked through. Adlerian Therapy is a powerful way to connect to you as a client and view life through your eyes to enable healing and change.